I'm calling B.S. on burnout!
I'm a fiercely competitive Aries. By the time I was 29 I was earning six-figures as an executive at a Fortune 500 company. I had two Stanford engineering degrees, a professional engineering license and had just successfully launched the rebrand of a 26,000 person company across 50 countries.
I was "living the dream." And I was M.I.S.E.R.A.B.L.E.
No matter how many accolades I accumulated, I never felt content. In fact, the more I seemed to earn the more unhappy and stressed I became.
I was ten pounds rounder than I wanted to be. I had adult acne. I averaged two glasses of wine and five hours of sleep a night.I looked around my organization and LinkedIn and I didn't find a single executive role-model whose life I wanted to emulate.
One day, sitting in my therapist's office, balling my eyes out, I choked out the words, "When will I ever feel like enough?"
It was at that moment I decided that if this was "living the dream," I desperately needed a better dream.
So I quit my fancy job with no backup plan. I spent the next several years investing way too much of my net worth into yoga teacher trainings, meditation classes, career coaching, health cleanses, facials, massages, traveling and trying to start three separate businesses.
Here's what I figured out: I don't have to buy into the myth that in order to crush my goals I have to crush my soul. It is a corruption of the American Dream that I simply don't subscribe to. Just because Corporate America is notorious for burnout and disengagement doesn't mean I have to participate in that culture. Instead I choose to believe that:
- I can be an overachiever and a healthy human.
- I can be successful and I can be sane.
- I can be ambitious and content.
Now I'm living my best life building a coaching practice and technology company that is challenging this myth; empowering overachievers, leaders, and influences to marry success and sanity in their life; shattering shame around mental, emotional, and spiritual health; and promoting self-care as the most important, selflessly selfish habit any of us can master.